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5 Signs You’re a Bad First Dater

First dates are like interviews. The respect that you’d give a future employer at an interview should measure up to the respect a potential boyfriend would deserve on a first date: show up on time, dress the part, and be considerate.

Below are the five signs that you’re a bad first dater:

  1. You showed up late and failed to give notice. This is 2010, not 1994. You see that shiny thing in your hand? It’s a mobile phone. Now that you’ve had a formal introduction, use it. Just send a courtesy text if you think you’re running late.
  2. You talked about a sexual experience within the first 5 minutes. This is unnecessary, unless of course, you met over Craigslist’s Casual Encounters. First dates are about building sexual tension. That foundation is going to need to be laid out over at least two glasses of wine.
  3. You’ve failed to dress appropriately. Unless you are auditioning to be an extra on the Jersey Shore, that slutty boob top and those frayed jeans are better off for your next Lady Gaga concert. I mean, sure, you could dress like a skank, but remember, skanks don’t get asked out on second dates.
  4. You ate off his plate, Did he offer? Did you ask politely? Horrible dining etiquette is a deal breaker for most. This is a first date anyway. Stop being weird. Eat your own damn food.
  5. You didn’t do “the gesture”. Chances are, if he has any sense, he’ll probably pay for the first date. Stop being ungrateful and at least offer. If he declines your gesture, which he probably will, offer to get the next round of drinks. The recession isn’t over. Stop being rude.

As originally posted on YourTango.

Posted at 12:40 PM in Flirting, General, dating Permalink | Comments Off
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I’m on Foursquare… and on Reuters!

Being a tech savvy matchmaker is hard work. With Facebook and Twitter, you basically know what I’m doing, thinking, etc. Well, seems like my Foursquare check-ins let you track me down to!

Reuters reports: Mixing Business with Foursquare

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Sex and the City Party!

Of course you scoffed when you saw Aiden in the trailer. Really, Carrie? REALLY? WTF?!!?@#%*$

As the characters inch closer to their AARP membership– we’ll be celebrating the release of a whole new reason to gossip about relationships, fashion, sex, and OMG-What-Character-of-Sex-and-the-City-are-you?!?!?

And as New Yorkers, we can all vouch, if you’re looking for sexy- no need to go to Dubai. Lea will be hosting the most *glam* premier party of them all on May 26 at 9pm.

We’ll also be giving away tickets to the MIDNIGHT PREMIER of Sex and the City that evening! So, you may need to order a shot of espresso with that Cosmo.

Cover: $10
2 for 1 Cosmos: Obligatory
Dresscode: DIVA

Check out the Facebook Invitation HERE.

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Sake for Singles Sponsored by SakeOne

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Five Simple Ways to Make Her Swoon

Women are very hard to impress. It’s not that we don’t care, but we’ve been subject to such inconsideration, that at this point- we’ve become cynical that the male race will ever be genuine. If you want a woman to swoon over you, you’re going to need to act cool, witty, and up your testosterone levels.

The five simple ways to get her to be completely smitten by you:

1. Learn how to play the guitar. An actual guitar, not Hero. Learn a cord or two. Pretend. Just buy it and decorate a visible corner of your living room. Guitar screams creativity, mystery, and romance. Women have a twisted perception, fueled by romantic comedies, that one day you will turn into Casanova and serenade us with a love song. She’ll want to be your muse.

2. Dress with style, but still be straight. A nice blazer with a salmon colored shirt and dark jeans is stylish. Rhinestones all over your purposefully torn jeans hits the probability factor that you may be wearing the same jeans as her. (This should not be confused with, Dress with style, but don’t be Jersey Shore, where ones attire would look like Ed Hardy threw up all over them.)

3. Be “The Man”. Open doors, pay for the first date, make sure she gets home safely. (Read: pay for her cab home/ drive her home/ walk her home. Do NOT walk her to the closest subway station.) Women TALK. If you want her to swoon for you, make sure her friends swoon for you too.

4. Have a sense of humor! It’s no secret that women have this personality trait on the top of their list when looking for a man. It’s not about making her laugh, as much as it is about laughing at yourself. Women equate a sense of humor with confidence and security. For best reference, you want to be a mix of Ferries Beuller and the character that Jon Cusack plays in Serendipity. Don’t take life to seriously, and tell her you leave it all to fate. Girls love that!

5. Stop being a douchebag. Most of us are incapable of detecting if you’re going to be flakey when we first meet you, but waiting 6 days before you call us back? No one is that busy. Be considerate of us, and we’ll just fall in love with you.

    Article as posted in Examiner.com. Written by Maria Avgitidis. Photo by Jill Hanner.
    Posted at 05:45 PM in Flirting, General Permalink | 1 Comment »
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    Talking About Your Ex is a Dating DON’T

    We’ve all experienced messy break ups. The past is where you should wipe away the residue of your broken heart if you ever want to start a new relationship. Unless your new interest loves to wallow in negativity (and they probably don’t, we hope!), talking about your ex on a first date is a major DON’T.

    Not only will your new interest “check-out” of the conversation, it’s a guaranteed way of destroying your chances of a second date. Talking negatively about your ex gives the impression that you are:

    1. Probably not over them and/or bitter/spiteful. The opposite of love is not hate. It’s indifference. Hatred and bitterness of your ex will be interpreted that you still have feelings.
    2. Capable of talking just as discriminatory of the next person you date, who could very well be the person who’s ear you are chewing off at that moment.

    If you can’t help but talk about your ex on a first date, perhaps now is not the time to start a relationship with someone new. Nurture the relationship you have with yourself first. If you’re still wallowing in the past, chances are you’re blind to notice the site of a potential future.

    Only when you can confidently answer that your last relationship was a “learning experience”, instead of “the person who stole my soul for 8 months”, will you be able to take on a new love interest.

    Posted at 07:50 PM in General, dating Permalink | Comments Off
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    How to Snag a NYC Fireman

    He looks amazing in suspenders and a helmet, and he probably has an authentic NY accent. He carries a big hose. He rides in a shiny red truck, whose obnoxious loud siren screams “emergency!”, all the while making you nervous, anxious…and strangely titillated.

    NYC firemen are hot, sexy, and easy to spot in uniform. But are they approachable? How do you effectively snag one? Below are the best practices on flirting with the FDNY:

    1. DO NOT mention 9/11. Bringing it up to a fireman is both a cliché and also a major emotional downer at this point.
    2. DO play the eye-sex game with the fireman who just caught your glance as the truck passes you by. This will give them even more adrenaline as they head off to danger. Remind them the best reason to stay strong: NYC women.
    3. DO say hello as you pass the firehouse. If the garage door is open, and the firemen are around, greet them with a smile. They won’t bite.
    4. DO NOT ask if they save kittens in trees. It’s been overplayed, ladies.
    5. DO understand that some firemen probably have yet to see a fire. I’m just saying…
    6. DO NOT try to come in between him and his brotherhood. You will not win.
    7. DO expect a real New Yorker. Most of the FDNY is NY born and bred. Reminding him that he’s a real New Yorker will stroke his big, NY… ego.
    8. DO let him know if you have knowledge of the FDNY, but DON’T let him know you know everything. Give him the opportunity to talk about his job.
    9. DON’T sleep with him on the first date if you actually want to date him. FDNY boys assume if you sleep with them on the first date, you just wanted to fulfill a “hero fantasy”.
    10. DO find him at the following favorite FDNY after-work watering holes:

    No luck with any of the above? Just start a fire. You’ll definitely get his attention then!

    Photo by Kenneth Lu.

    Posted at 05:03 PM in Flirting, General, New York City Permalink | Comments Off
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    The Bunny Bar Hop

    Time to get our Ladies Night Bar Crawl on.

    We will provide you with Bunny Ears and Tails, as we move together–all 100 of us– hopping from bar to bar to bar, all the while wagging our tails.

    GENTLEMEN: You cannot purchase ears and tails– however.. you are more than welcome to “chase the tail” at the bars we will be hopping to. (See below for list of..)

    Meet us at Astor Place on Saturday, March 6th, at 6pm to get your Bunny Ears and Tails- to qualify for drink specials at the following Bunny Friendly Bars:

    * The Thirsty Scholar
    * Ryan’s Irish Pub
    * Bull McCabes
    * Holiday Cocktail Lounge
    * …more bars to follow…

    At each of these venues there will be drink specials and playBOYs hoping to get some tail. There will also be an Easter Bunny that you can take your photo with!

    YOU MUST RESERVE YOUR EARS and TAIL at http://bunnybarhop.eventbrite.com

    Things to note:

    1) YOU MUST BE 21+ and a WOMAN to purchase ears/tail.

    2) You must bring a valid ID with you to receive your ears and tail.

    3) You must pre-order your ears and tails.

    4) You will not qualify for drink specials unless you have our actual ears and tails.

    5) Please bring cash for drinks to make your hopping easier.

    Posted at 12:14 PM in Events, New York City Permalink | Comments Off

    Going to SXSW?

    Are you attending the SXSW in Austin, Texas this year?

    I’m sponsoring The Computer Blip Bloop Bullshit Party, along with The Onion, and The AV Club on March 15.

    The hosts of the party are The Found Footage Festival, Busted Tees, and Brooklyn Brewery. With such an array of hosts and sponsors, you know this party is probably going to be the best. party. ever.

    Hope to see you there!

    Posted at 05:12 PM in Events, General Permalink | 2 Comments »

    The Love Lockdown Party Recap!

    The Love Lockdown Party took place on Friday, February 12 at La Pomme.

    Men were given locks and women were given keys. Upon match (and there were plenty of matches! Over 150!), they were given raffle tickets for a chance to win prizes, like massage gift certificates, and even a helicopter ride for two around Manhattan.

    Photos from this event have been posted within the Facebook Fan Page of Maria the Date Coach and Flickr.

    A big thank you to everyone who attended and participated! I hope you all had as much fun as I did!
    Posted at 01:34 AM in General, New York City, Photos Permalink | Comments Off
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